Self-pity * Lastima
"Self-pity is a dead -end road. You make the the choice to drive down it. Its up to you to decide to stay parked there or to turn around and drive out." Cheryl Strayed
I have been down that road many times. I tend to go there when things don't work out in my favor, or so I think . When I don't get the job that I wanted so much because X and Y . When I think about the fact that my parents divorced when I was 5 and my dad never came around anymore . Maybe I was not good enough, worthy enough.
How do I get through it? How do I drive out ?
It has taken me a long time, 33 years to be exact but I have come to the realization that what should have been would have been .And, no matter what comes my way I can handle it . I am used to rejection and I am accepting of it . I know who I am, I know my worth , and most importantly I have grown to really love myself . So when rejection or dissapointment cross my path instead of driving down the Self-pity road on the left I choose to turn right to the Self-Confident Road . We all experience negative feelings and we have to learn to not only live with them but to make them our friends. People ask me all the time, how can I make a friend out of my enemy? and I tell them , you can do it because they make you who you are, they teach you valuable lessons, and most importantly because they make you Stronger .
Just Remember: If It Doesn't Break You, It Will Make You !!!